“You have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, ‘You shall not murder,’ and ‘whoever murders shall be liable to judgment.’ But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister, you will be liable to judgment, and if you insult a brother or sister, you will be liable to the council, and if you say, ‘You fool,’ you will be liable to the hell of fire. So when you are offering your gift at the altar, if you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother or sister, and then come and offer your gift. Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are on the way to court with him, or your accuser may hand you over to the judge and the judge to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison. Truly I tell you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny."
Matthew 5:21-26 (NRSVue)
What if you say worse than, "You fool?"
Jesus has quit preaching and gone to meddling as the old joke goes. In today's culture, we seem to go quickly from zero to sixty in a matter of seconds with regards to things getting heated or under our skin.
I hear people describing behavior as toxic when it really is just disagreement.
We are quick to cut off relationships if any speed bump comes along.
What happens to society when we view people or at least our affiliations with them as disposable?
Fortunately, I believe that Jesus' crowd probably had much the same reaction as we do today. There was a lot more pressure then - their stresses came in the way of not having enough food to feed their families. In order to earn money, they may have had to work or rub shoulders with the foreign occupiers of their country. It may have been easy for those who did have enough to shun those who didn't for this very behavior. And of course, in an interconnected society, the amount of capitulation always comes in degrees.
So today's message from Jesus may be hard but it is flat-out good advice for stability of a community on any scale.
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| Sometimes a real fight begins through silliness. |
The healthy response is to maintain relationship while keeping safe boundaries. This requires mutual respect and forgiveness. To be clear, when a person is in a relationship that is truly harmful, it is important to distance so that health can be restored. But I wonder if we are more sensitive to slight as a people than we used to be. Is it a spiritual discipline to give the benefit of the doubt?
We cannot change someone else's behavior, but we can change our response. We don't have to respond with slur or slander or even subtle dig. We don't have to take it up a notch. We don't have to lay waste to the situation so that they'll never mess with us again.
Many sermons today will re-emphasize their point throughout the sermon in different ways. If you review the beatitudes, how many do you see present in today's verses?
During Lent, may we review some of the relationships that have ended. Jesus seems to be saying that reconciliation may be the greatest gift we can give to God. After all, what good parent wants to see their children fight?
Prayer for the day: Warm-hearted God, help us to see others through your eyes. And let us hear people as you hear them. When we find ourselves offended, may we take a second or a third look before we act upon it. And when lines have been crossed, may we find the strength to pursue reconciliation. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen.
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